It’s not me, it’s you: Break up with job you don’t love

Friday, February 15, 2019, Vol. 43, No. 7

It’s the month of love, and I hope you had a happy Valentine’s Day. Every year, I write a column about why it’s important to love your job. This year, let’s look at it another way.

If you don’t love your job, it’s time to break it off. It’s time to end that toxic eight-hour-a-day relationship. You wouldn’t put up with it in a romantic partner. Why are you putting up with it at work?

I know, it’s hard to do. Your job has been so reliable. It’s stable. You don’t want to be left in the cold with no job.

But, are you really happy? Does your job put you first? Or, is your job like a partner who’s draining your mind and your wallet?

You spend too much time with your job not to love it. In fact, you may spend more time with your job than with your spouse.

If you’re having cold feet about your job, this is the time to make a change. And, by “this is the time,” I mean – right this minute.

The job market is the best that it’s been in an entire generation. Economists say that it hasn’t been this great since the late 1960s. New jobs are showing up every day on the internet. They’re showing up every minute.

You’ve probably heard people don’t quit companies, they quit bosses. It’s true. If you don’t love your company or your boss, do yourself a favor. Look and see what’s new in your job field. You may be surprised.

Make a list of all the things you want in a job. What would make you really love your work? Do you want to work for a great boss? On a great team?

Do you want to work on a product that you can get behind? Are you looking for a company with integrity?

Write down your goal list and start looking for it.

What you’re hoping for is out there. Don’t stay committed to a company that’s not committed to you.

Look for something better, something more fulfilling. Make your happiness at work a priority.

Breaking up with your job isn’t as hard as it sounds.

The first rule is, don’t tell anyone until you’ve secured a new job. Once you’ve found a new job, wait until you’ve accepted it in writing to tell your company.

Start with your boss. Thank them for the opportunity and let them know you’ve found something new.

Give at least two weeks of notice, but not more than four. Things can get stressful if you give too much notice.

After you’ve shared your news verbally, confirm it in an email to your boss.

And, come up with a plan about how and when you’ll share the great news with the larger team.

Before long, the breakup will be complete. You’ll be off to a bigger and better opportunity that you love.

Angela Copeland, a career expert and founder of Copeland Coaching, can be reached at